Envy: A feeling of discontent and resentment aroused by and in conjunction with desire for the possessions or qualities of another.
A friend of mine from a writing group just received an amazing book deal that she worked her butt off to get. When I learned about it, I immediately congratulated her. Way to go again, Laura!!!
After I hit send on the message, my green-eyed monster poked its head out from the cage I normally keep it locked in and promptly set to rattling my thoughts.
I allowed myself five minutes (I know because I watched the clock) of gosh I wish that were me, and then I put my monster to work.
If I’m stuck with this nasty creature and feed it from time to time, by golly I’m putting it to work. What’s its job?
To motivate me to strive harder to achieve what I want.
Yes, your monster can be a force for good...
...instead of evil.
And if you think you don’t have a green-eyed monster—some are bigger and uglier than others—or you don’t have an envious bone in your body, I say you must be Mary Poppins, Deepak Chopra, or a liar.Some unfortunate people let their green-eyed monster pollute their souls. Before they know it, the only thing they've accomplished is to fill their hearts with bitterness.
Need an example to fully grasp what I’m saying, then check out the movie Amadeus.
It’s healthier to acknowledge your monster, love it even, but make it serve you, not the other way around. When friends, colleagues, heck anyone you know does well or succeeds in some area (finds love, wins the lotto, loses fifty pounds, plays an instrument better than you, sings like an angel while you croak out a song in the shower daydreaming about American Idol…you get it), WISH THEM WELL.
Why? There isn’t some finite amount of success in the universe. If someone else does well, it is not diminishing your chances or stealing your opportunity. There is plenty to go around and a little good karma can’t hurt!
Thanks to Alex J. Cavanaugh for another month of IWSG.