Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Insecurities to Success: Doubter's Guide to Believing in Self

For this month’s Insecure Writer’s Support Group post, led by the wonderful Alex J. Cavanaugh, I asked my friend Diana Cosby to be a guest.

Diana is an international best-selling author, fellow member of RomVets (military women who’ve turned the sword into a pen), and an inspiration who never ceases to amaze me.

Not only is she a gifted storyteller that turned this die-hard paranormal/urban fantasy reader into a lover of historical romance, but she is also a philanthropist with a big heart and generous spirit. I’m eagerly anticipating her Highland Vampire anthology.

Thanks for coming on and sharing your wisdom, Diana!



"Insecurities To Success - a doubters guide to believing in self!"

Dreams are visions of what we can become. But, dreams are also an invitation to doubt, to wonder if you’re good enough, or if you have what it takes. When I retired from the Navy, I decided to pursue my dream of becoming a published author. After 100 rejections, I quit counting as I figured I knew how to achieve a rejection. Then, after 9 ½ years, I finally sold. The journey taught me many things, which I’d like to share with you.

-Take yourself seriously: If YOU don’t, no one else will.

-Associate with people who inspire you, and encourage you to achieve your dreams. Encourage and inspire others as you grow in your own writing.

-Set a clear goal: Once you know exactly what you want, break down steps to achieve it. If you’re unsure how to start, read biographies of people who have achieved a dream similar to yours. What steps did they take? Are there comparable avenues you can pursue?

-Success is a compilation of small steps toward one focused goal.

-Affiliate yourself with professional organizations: Join accredited groups to educate yourself about the industry you’ve chosen. In addition to net-working, you will have opportunities to learn from on-line or local sources.

-Self affirmation: Each morning reaffirm that you are good enough and clarify your goal of the day. Then, move forward with positive, focused steps.

-Inspirational quotes: I’m a huge fan of inspirational quotes, they ground and remind me that each of us struggle as we pursue our dreams. Each day, I find a quote that touches me and post it on my Facebook page in hopes others find inspiration in the message as well.

-Permission to fail: Success is not a moment, but a journey. As we grow within our craft, there will be times when we fail at a certain steps. Focus not on the failure, but on the lessons learned. What worked, what didn’t? Move forward and make wiser decisions with the knowledge learned.

-The way we act, and talk about our goals reflects our commitment to them: What are you telling yourself? “I WILL do this!” Or, are you assuring yourself that one day you’ll really try?

-Give the gift of example: When you make the choice to follow your dream, you are doing more than commitment to self, but teaching your children an important life lesson — dare to dream, and follow through. So, be bold. Believe in yourself.

I hope you’ve found inspiration from my comments. Remember, there is no right path, but the steps right for you. Believe in yourself, YOU have what it takes!

*How do you encourage others to go after their dreams?

Diana's bio: Most people think of retirement as a time to relax. For me, retiring at 36 from my job as a Navy Chief Meteorologist/ Oceanographer allowed me to pursue my passion – writing romance novels. With 33 moves behind me and having traveled through many countries, I was anxious to create characters who reflected the amazing cultures and people I’ve met over the years.

I am currently working on the next Scottish medieval romantic suspense book in the award-winning MacGruder brothers series as well as a story for a Scottish medieval Vampire anthology featuring Hannah Howell to be released in 2012. I look forward to the years of writing ahead and meeting the amazing people who will share my journey.

To learn more about Diana or to purchase her latest release HIS DESTINY, click HERE.

Diana will stop by to answer any questions and to meet commenters!

85 comments:

  1. Thanks again for coming on, Diana!

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  2. Brilliant post Diana, well done on establishing such a great second career!

    I loved your advice about believing in yourself. Time and time again I've seen people fail to achieve because they don't believe they can and the people around them believe their assessment.

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  3. This was such a powerful way to tie in with Alex's theme! Diana, you've composed a wonderful guide that I will often reference! You've led such an interesting life and I wish you lots of success with your latest release! Thanks for hosting Isis! Julie

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  4. Great advice, Diana. You are such an inspiration. Not only a wonderful writer but a genuinely wonderful person.

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  5. I love the possitive thinking. I try to reassure myself every day that the road to success is only around the bend. Heck, self affirmation is how I've made it through life in general. Things can get tough out there. I post inspirational quotes once a week on my dry erase board at work. It's wonderful that you're pursuing your dream of writing romance. Good luck to you. Great interview, Isis. :)

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  6. Wonderful advice, Diana! We really do have to be our own best friend thru this journey. ANd the more we help others on their path, the better at it we become.
    Wow, sounds like you left a really great job! I'm so happy for you that you get to do what you really love tho!!
    Thanks, Isis!

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  7. this was awesome. thank you so much, just what I've needed to hear

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  8. Thanks for the affirmation! It is difficult sometimes to keep plugging along toward those goals. Awesome tips! :)

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  9. Isis Rushdan said: Thanks again for coming on, Diana!

    ~Good morning, Isis, my sincere thanks for having me on your fabulous blog. I’m thrilled to be here. I’ve been blessed throughout my life to have amazing people take time out of their crazy lives to make a positive difference in mine. If anything in my post encourages others to believe in their self and pursue their dreams, that’s what it’s all about. *Hugs* Dreams are visions of what we can become. Have an amazing day!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  10. Ellen Brickley said: Brilliant post Diana, well done on establishing such a great second career!

    ~Hi Ellen, thank you so much for stopping by and your kind words. If anything helped inspire you, that’s what it’s all about. :)

    I loved your advice about believing in yourself. Time and time again I've seen people fail to achieve because they don't believe they can and the people around them believe their assessment.

    ~I believe it is a person’s attitude that defines if they fail or succeed. One of my favorite quotes on this topic is:
    “Whether you think you can or think you can't - you are right.” - Henry Ford
    Take care, have a super day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  11. Empty Nest Insider said: This was such a powerful way to tie in with Alex's theme!

    ~Good morning Julie, my sincere thanks for stopping by. It’s my sincere pleasure to be here to celebrate the blog’s wonderful message to believe in yourself and go for your dreams!

    Diana, you've composed a wonderful guide that I will often reference!

    ~Thank you for your kind words. If anything helps, that’s what it’s all about.

    You've led such an interesting life

    ~Between growing up a military brat, having served, I’ve been blessed to experience many cultures, travel, and meet so many amazing people.

    and I wish you lots of success with your latest release!

    ~My sincere thanks for your kind wishes. I love what I do. Each story I book is from my heart, and when others enjoy my stories, I’m humbled.

    Thanks for hosting Isis!

    ~:) I agree, Isis is a wonderful host and did a fabulous job setting up my blog. Take care, have a super day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  12. Anita Clenney said: Great advice, Diana. You are such an inspiration. Not only a wonderful writer but a genuinely wonderful person.

    ~Good morning, Anita. Thank you so much for stopping by and your kind words. If anything helps, that’s what it’s all about. And, so proud of you as your latest release is on the best-seller list! Woot!!! Take care and wishing you the very best! *Hugs*
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  13. Laila Knight said: I love the positive thinking. I try to reassure myself every day that the road to success is only around the bend. Heck, self-affirmation is how I've made it through life in general. Things can get tough out there.

    ~Hi Laila, thank you so much for stopping by, and I’m with you. It’s our mental positive focus and strength which help us overcome life’s challenges and achieve our goals.

    I post inspirational quotes once a week on my dry erase board at work.

    ~I love, love, love inspirational quotes. Each morning I post one on my Facebook site, and I love reading others. They’re like reminders of where to keep our focus in life.

    It's wonderful that you're pursuing your dream of writing romance. Good luck to you.

    ~My sincere thanks for your kind wishes. I feel blessed to do what I love.

    Great interview, Isis. :)

    ~Isis did a wonderful job. *Hugs* Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  14. Pk Hrezo said: Wonderful advice, Diana! We really do have to be our own best friend thru this journey. ANd the more we help others on their path, the better at it we become.

    ~Hi Pk, thank you so much for stopping by. I agree, our lives are enriched to a humbling, amazing degree when we help others.

    Wow, sounds like you left a really great job!

    ~I enjoyed being a meteorologist/oceanographer. An interesting job indeed.

    I'm so happy for you that you get to do what you really love tho!!

    ~:) Thank you. I’m humbled to do what I love daily.

    Thanks, Isis!

    ~I add my thanks to Isis as well, she’s a super sweet and amazing person. I appreciate her asking me to blog with you all today. Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  15. Cristina said: this was awesome. thank you so much, just what I've needed to hear

    ~Christine, thank you so much for stopping by. If anything helped, that’s what it’s all about. Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  16. Jennifer Groepl said: Thanks for the affirmation! It is difficult sometimes to keep plugging along toward those goals. Awesome tips! :)

    ~Hi Jennifer, thank you so much for stopping by. I’m glad if anything helped. Life is difficult. One thing I’ve told my kids throughout their lives is that it’s all about perspective. We don’t have problems, we have challenges. Challenges we can overcome. Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  17. What an awesome story! Thank you for daring us to dream. =)

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  18. It's true about breaking it up into steps. I need to remind myself that. Thanks Isis and Diana!

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  19. "Success is a compilation of small steps toward one focused goal."

    Exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks, Diana, and congrats on living your writing dream!

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  20. Okay, I'm trying to comment again. :-)
    These are wonderful tips and I totally agree! Thanks for sharing!! Congrats, Diana!

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  21. E. Arroyo said: What an awesome story! Thank you for daring us to dream. =)

    ~Hi E. Arroyo and thank you so much for stopping by and your kind words. If anything helps, that’s what it’s all about. Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  22. Lydia Kang said: It's true about breaking it up into steps. I need to remind myself that. Thanks Isis and Diana!

    ~Hi Lydia, and thank you for stopping by. At times when I get overwhelmed, I’ve learned to stop and get organized. Then, I regroup and make an organized plan of attack for my goals, then move forward. :) Have a super day, enjoy, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  23. L.C. Frost said: "Success is a compilation of small steps toward one focused goal."
    Exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks, Diana, and congrats on living your writing dream!

    ~Hi L.C., thank you so much for dropping by. If anything helps, I’m thrilled. You CAN achieve your dreams! Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  24. Jessica Nelson said: Okay, I'm trying to comment again. :-)

    ~Hi Jessica, thank you so much for fighting the blog dragon and posting. Victory is yours! :)

    These are wonderful tips and I totally agree! Thanks for sharing!! Congrats, Diana!

    ~If anything helps, that’s what it’s all about. Have a super day, and I’m wishing you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  25. ***Posting for Loni who is having trouble posting:

    Loni said: Diana, I tried to comment on Isis’ blog and couldn’t so I’m sending you my comment:

    ~Hi Loni, thank you so much for taking the time to stop by. Sorry you’re having to battle the blog dragons. It happens every now and again.

    “As always, you are my inspiration. When I was going through a writing slump in the spring, your article in Women’s Day boosted my spirits. And now, I’m muddling through a revise and resubmit to an editor (yes!) and hitting those “questioning myself moments”. Now your post this morning again lifts me up. You are my spoonful of sugar when the hiccups of self-doubt hit me! Thanks for being so sweet and soothing to those nerves.”

    ~*Hugs* Thank you so much for your kind words. You’re a super sweet person whom I’m blessed to know. Yeah, those revise and resubmits can be a bear. What I do is break them down, address each issue at a time, and it all gets done. You’re doing great!

    Good luck with HIS DESTINY. I’m heading out this week to B&N for a copy since I’ve read all the others. GO MACGRUDERS!!!

    ~*Hugs* Thank you so much. I sincerely hope you enjoy the 4th book in the MacGruder brothers series. And, can’t spill the beans, but please check back on my website for some exciting news about the series. Should be coming soon! :)

    (Oh, heading to Maryland Ren Faire this weekend with sister-in-law and her boyfriend from England too—more Scottish/English inspiration. Hope there are lots of Hottie Scotties in kilts!!) Warmest hugs!

    ~Enjoy, I know it’ll be major muse food! *G* Have a super day, and please know I wish you the very best! *Hugs*
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  26. Wow, thank you so much for this inspiring interview! I love the idea of trying to inspire on FB. Your story sounds fascinating and whoah 33 moves. I have 17; I'm married to a CMC in the Navy. I admire you following your dreams and enabling others to follow theirs~ Thanks to both of you for this amazing post!

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  27. A road map worth following. Thank you.

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  28. Ella said: Wow, thank you so much for this inspiring interview! I love the idea of trying to inspire on FB.

    ~Hi Ella, thank you so much for taking the time to stop by and say hi. If anything helps, that’s what it’s all about. I love inspiring quotes, and enjoy finding ones that move me and sharing them on my Facebook pages. (I have a personal and author page.)

    Your story sounds fascinating and whoah 33 moves. I have 17; I'm married to a CMC in the Navy.

    ~:) As you know, when you’re affiliated with the military, you win the, “I’m moving around,” lottery. *G* As a military brat, then serving and retiring as a Navy Chief, AGC(AW), then being married to a Navy man, it comes with the turf. But, as you know, it’s amazing to see and experience the different cultures around the world. And the incredible and inspiring people you meet, amazing.
    My sincere thanks to you and your husband for the sacrifices you both make in serving our country. *Hugs*

    I admire you following your dreams and enabling others to follow theirs~ Thanks to both of you for this amazing post!

    ~I am blessed to do what I love daily, and I thank God each day. If along the way I can inspire others to go after their dreams, I’m humbled.
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  29. LD Masterson said: A road map worth following. Thank you.

    ~Hi LD, thank you so much for stopping by. If anything helps, that’s what it’s all about. Wishing you the best in your writing as in your life! Take care and have a super day!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  30. Hello Isis!

    I wandered over from Alex's blog. I'm new to the Insecure Writer's Support Group. I'm finding it a wonderful place to be!

    Thanks for the marvelous and encouraging interview! Diana, your tips are wonderful reminders to work hard and take the work of a writer seriously. Like you said, if we don't, no one else will!

    Cheers!
    Jen

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  31. Jen Chandler said: Hello Isis! I wandered over from Alex's blog. I'm new to the Insecure Writer's Support Group. I'm finding it a wonderful place to be! Thanks for the marvelous and encouraging interview!

    ~Hi Jen, thank you so much for wandering over *G*, and a pleasure to ‘meet’ you. I appreciate your kind words. If anything helps, that’s what it’s all about.

    Diana, your tips are wonderful reminders to work hard and take the work of a writer seriously. Like you said, if we don't, no one else will! Cheers!

    ~An amazing and inspiring man, Dr. Greg Moffat, one told me, “Luck is hard work plus opportunity. You need to be both prepared and able to recognize opportunity when it arrives, then dive in! :) Take care, enjoy your day, and please know I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  32. "Success is not a moment, but a journey." < So true, that. Good advice.

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  33. I enjoyed your post, Diana. I've always been one to set goals--big one with the small steps to accomplish the main goal. I believe that's the only way to accomplish your goals.I also believe that falling down in normal in climbing steps to your dream. So, I fell a couple of steps but look at how far I've come? Celebrate each successful step up to you main goals. And absolutely echoing your comment on associating with fellow writers and having a good support structure in place.

    Thank you Isis. This was a good idea!

    Sia McKye's Thoughts...OVER COFFEE

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  34. L.G.Smith said:
    "Success is not a moment, but a journey."

    < So true, that. Good advice.

    ~Hi L.G., thank you so much for stopping by. A pleasure to ‘meet’ you. Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  35. ~Sia McKye~ said: I enjoyed your post, Diana.

    ~Hi Sia, thank you so much for stopping by. I’m glad if anything helped.

    I've always been one to set goals--big one with the small steps to accomplish the main goal. I believe that's the only way to accomplish your goals.

    ~Exactly. It’s like driving down the road without a map. You can go for miles, see some neat things, but until you have focus, a clear goal, you’ll never arrive at destination that offer true satisfaction. Satisfaction is found when we set goals, overcome challenges, and succeed.

    I also believe that falling down in normal in climbing steps to your dream. So, I fell a couple of steps but look at how far I've come? Celebrate each successful step up to you main goals.

    ~I agree, it’s so important to celebrate each successful step. ^5

    And absolutely echoing your comment on associating with fellow writers and having a good support structure in place.

    ~^5 Thanks again for your comments. Very nice to ‘meet’ you. Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  36. Diana- All wise words. Thanks to Isis for a wonderful guest!

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  37. Nice to meet you Isis and Diana. I came over from Alex's. Diana, true words of wisdom. Your books sound amazing too. Hope to see you both around.
    Nancy
    N. R. Williams, Fantasy Author

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  38. Thanks for those wonderful words of encouragement, Diana. You're so right! Leah

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  39. Thank you, Diana! Inspiring and so true.

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  40. Brinda said: Diana- All wise words. Thanks to Isis for a wonderful guest

    ~Hi Brinda, thank you so much for stopping by, and your kind words. If you found anything helpful or inspirational, that’s what it’s all about. I sincerely appreciate Isis for asking me here. :) It’s a pleasure meeting ya’ll! Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you every success!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  41. N. R. Williams said: Nice to meet you Isis and Diana. I came over from Alex's.

    ~Hi Nancy, nice to ‘meet’ you as well, and I appreciate your stopping by.

    Diana, true words of wisdom. Your books sound amazing too. Hope to see you both around.

    ~:) I sincerely hope you enjoy meeting the MacGruder brothers. I love writing their stories. Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  42. leahstjames said: Thanks for those wonderful words of encouragement, Diana. You're so right!

    ~Hi Leah, fabulous seeing you here. Hope all is going super on your end. If anything helped you, that’s what it’s all about. ^5 Take care, enjoy your day, and wishing you the very best! *Hugs*
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  43. Fabio Bueno said: Thank you, Diana! Inspiring and so true.

    ~Hi Fabio, thank you for your kind words and taking the time to stop by and say hi. I hope you’re enjoying your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  44. Thank you for such a positive blog, Diana. I will keep your words of encouragement in mind, especially in times of self doubt. I have noticed the more myself confidence grows my statements changed from I may do this, to I will do this. Thanks for another great blog Isis!

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  45. You have such a nice, clear way of showing how to motivate and stay positive. I always learn from your posts. I too believe in self-affirmation. You have to believe in yourself before others will.

    Great post!

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  46. Great blog, Diana! I agree with your point wholeheartedly!

    Light,
    Nancy Haddock

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  47. Thanks for bringing us Diana's words, Isis. I love hearing other author's stories. They're so inspiring. I like the daily affirmation thing. I have one of my characters doing it. I should do it myself.

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  48. Excellent checklist! I'm giving myself a pep talk in the mirror tomorrow.

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  49. Perfect forum, perfect advice! Thank you so much for sharing! I'm glad I'm doing most of this correctly though I still have a long way to go.

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  50. What a great and inspirational story. I'm glad you finally achieved the success you dreamed of.

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  51. Perfect advice. Thank you for posting that.

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  52. Great post for the month. I like the first definition of dreams. If we don't have dreams, what do we have to inspire us? Sure, the doubts must follow, but they must be subsumed by our dreams.

    Denise

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  53. Jessica Salyer said: Thank you for such a positive blog, Diana. I will keep your words of encouragement in mind, especially in times of self doubt.

    ~Hi Jessica, thank you so much for stopping by and saying hi, and if anything helps, that’s what it’s all about.

    I have noticed the more myself confidence grows my statements changed from I may do this, to I will do this.

    ~Exactly. Self-affirmation is the key. Repetition reinforces your belief. So, the decision is yours to tell yourself you can or can’t do it. Your mind believes which one you choose. Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  54. Maggie Toussaint said: You have such a nice, clear way of showing how to motivate and stay positive. I always learn from your posts. I too believe in self-affirmation. You have to believe in yourself before others will. Great post!

    ~*Hugs* Hey Maggie, always fabulous to see you. I’ve learned so much from you over the years, and you’re a constant inspiration in my life. I’m blessed to call you friend! I’m so proud of you and am thrilled your career has taken off. I sincerely wish you every success! *Hugs*
    Love you!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  55. Nancy Haddock said: Great blog, Diana! I agree with your point wholeheartedly! Light,

    ~*Hugs* Nancy, thank you so much for stopping by. You're such an amazing and inspiring person. You truly carve an amazing and positive path in life. Love your vampire stories. I’m a fan!

    ~And, I’m excited for the fabulous project you’re part of with, “Entangled.” How fabulous that all proceeds – 100% -- of this anthology go to the Breast Cancer Research Foundation!

    ~Take care, enjoy your evening, an d I sincerely wish you every success! *Hugs*
    Love you!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  56. M Pax said...

    Thanks for bringing us Diana's words, Isis. I love hearing other author's stories. They're so inspiring. I like the daily affirmation thing. I have one of my characters doing it. I should do it myself.

    ~Hi M Pax, thank you so much for stopping by. I love that your character does daily affirmations. Neat. Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  57. Alex J. Cavanaugh said: Excellent checklist! I'm giving myself a pep talk in the mirror tomorrow.

    ~:) Hey Alex, thanks for stopping by, and I’m cheering you on. You CAN do it! Take care, hope you enjoy the day, and I’m wishing you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  58. Nancy Thompson said: Perfect forum, perfect advice! Thank you so much for sharing! I'm glad I'm doing most of this correctly though I still have a long way to go.

    ~Hi Nancy, thank you so much for stopping by and saying hi. Sounds like you’re doing great. Way to go! ^5 Enjoy your day and wishing you the best as you achieve your dreams!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  59. kirstenlopresti said: What a great and inspirational story. I'm glad you finally achieved the success you dreamed of.

    ~Hi Kristen, thank you so much for stopping by as your kind words. It’s truly a humbling journey. I have many more goals to achieve, mostly with my charity work. Each day I feel blessed to do what I love, and to meet the most incredible people. Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  60. Michael Offutt said: Perfect advice. Thank you for posting that.

    ~Hi Michael, thank you so much for stopping by. If anything helps, that’s what it’s all about. Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  61. L'Aussie said: Great post for the month. I like the first definition of dreams. If we don't have dreams, what do we have to inspire us? Sure, the doubts must follow, but they must be subsumed by our dreams.

    ~Hi Denise, thank you so much for stopping by to say hi. Yes, doubts come, it’s natural. And, it’s up to us to believe or dismiss those doubts = we are what we tell ourselves we are. Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  62. I love the permission to fail tip the best of all. This one I've had to struggle with for some time and still struggle with it on occasion.

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  63. Lynda R Young said: I love the permission to fail tip the best of all. This one I've had to struggle with for some time and still struggle with it on occasion.

    ~Hi Lynda, thank you so much for stopping by. I think failure is a big challenge to deal with on most writers’ plates. If we focus on the non-achievement portion, we miss such valuable lessons the experience taught us. It took me a while to really understand that every experience in life, however difficult, teaches us a valuable lesson. Now, regardless of what occurs, I acknowledge the emotional repercussions, but my focus is on what lessons I learned. I’m glad this helped you. Please know I’m cheering for you and wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  64. My sincere thanks to everyone who stopped by today. It's been a pleasure 'meeting' each one of you. As a writer, daily, we all face doubts and can easily feel overwhelmed. The key is affirmation that YOU CAN DO IT. Break down the goal to doable bites. Give yourself permission to write crap. As Nora Roberts says, "You can edit crap, but you can't edit a blank page."
    Dare to go after your dreams. Only YOU can tell YOUR story. Challenges test if we want what we say we want. That's where the old, "Where there's a will there's a way," quote comes in.
    I wish each of you every success. Take care and God bless.
    *Hugs*

    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

    *Isis, I will continue to answer any follow-on questions. It's my sincere pleasure to be on your blog today. Thank you! *Hugs*

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  65. Excellent advice! I'm a huge fan of the inspirational quote--sometimes you just need to see things in another person's interpretation to understand and relate.

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  66. I am framing these, Diana. Dreaming takes courage, achieving your dream takes courage, and holding onto your dream takes courage. Your words give me courage.

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  67. julie fedderson said: Excellent advice! I'm a huge fan of the inspirational quote--sometimes you just need to see things in another person's interpretation to understand and relate.

    ~Hi Julie, thank you so much for stopping by and saying hi. I’m so with you. Each of us learns differently, and at time’s it’s like the forest through the trees thing. Some shows you or says a quote related to the topic and wham, the light bulb comes on. Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  68. Grace Burrowes said: I am framing these, Diana. Dreaming takes courage, achieving your dream takes courage, and holding onto your dream takes courage. Your words give me courage.

    ~*Hugs* Grace. So glad if anything helps. I sincerely wish you the best as you go after your dreams. Never doubt, but regroup with a plan! Take care and enjoy your day!
    Slaìnte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  69. Thanks for that shot of encouragement. You're so right, if we don't take ourselves seriously, nobody else will.

    I imagine that you write fascinating stories if they're set in different locations. Green with envy here wondering when I'll get to retire. :)

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  70. hi isis,
    I hope you are well. I have only just signed up to alex's writer's support group, so I thought I would pop over and say "hi". I know we follow one another on twitter.
    HUGS EVE. XOXOX

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  71. J.L. Campbell said: Thanks for that shot of encouragement. You're so right, if we don't take ourselves seriously, nobody else will.

    ~Hi J.L., thank you so much for stopping by and saying hi. Exactly. Here’s my quote of the day I posted on my Facebook page:
    “You either work to achieve your own goals or you work to achieve someone else's goals.” – Brian Tracy
    http://www.facebook.com/pages/Diana-Cosby-Romance-Author/150109024636?ref=ts

    I imagine that you write fascinating stories if they're set in different locations.

    ~My travels have definitely influenced my writing. I craft stories from my heart, those that touch me, move me deeply and when I write, I laugh, cry and experience the emotions of my characters. It’s an incredible experience. I feel blessed to do what I love daily.

    Green with envy here wondering when I'll get to retire. :)

    ~Cheering for the day you retire! ^5 Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte,

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  72. Eve.E said...

    hi isis,
    I hope you are well. I have only just signed up to alex's writer's support group, so I thought I would pop over and say "hi". I know we follow one another on twitter.
    HUGS EVE. XOXOX

    ~Hi Eve, thank you so much for stopping by, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte,

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  73. Very good list. After six books, I agree with everything. Association is very important and finding a mentor even better.

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  74. L. Diane Wolfe said: Very good list. After six books, I agree with everything. Association is very important and finding a mentor even better.

    ~Hi L. Diane Wolfe and thank you so much for stopping by. A good mentor is so important. They truly help you move forward with solid direction. Take care, enjoy your day, and I wish you the very best!
    Slainte!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW) USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  75. *Posted for Linda Voss who is having trouble leaving her note:

    Diana, thank you for sharing your words of wisdom and sharing from your experience to help others.

    ~Hi Linda, fabulous to see you! *Hugs* Over the years I thank you for the great advice you’ve shared. You’re truly an amazing an inspirational person. *Hugs*

    Great advice and encouragement. I loved your tip about being a role model for your kids and others. You're the best example of inspiration!

    ~As you my friend. *Hugs*

    The best advise I got on preparing for those days when you want to quit was to be very clear about your motivation for achieving your goal. Answering the question, "What's in it for me?" very honestly can help you remember when you're not sure why you're doing this.
    You can even anchor that motivation by putting something on your desk that symbolizes your motivation for you. If you write to keep your heart open and share that with others, for example, you might use a big, bright red stone heart as a bookend to hold your writing reference books up on your desk.

    ~I love this ‘visual’ reminder. Wow, I know exactly what I’m going to look for to add to my desk. :)

    I also loved your inspirational words about hard work meeting luck. You are the best example of someone I know who sets her goals in front of her every day and just keeps going!
    Thank you for your inspiring example.

    ~My sincere thanks to you for stopping by. I’ve watched you over the years, and when you set a goal, you overcame incredible hurdles to achieve it. I’m blessed to be your friend, and I wish you every success in the future! *Hugs*
    Love you!

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW) USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  76. Wonderful post. I love hearing how others stay motivated. I like that she reads inspirational quotes and that she sets clear goals. I try to do those things as well.

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  77. Wow, retired at 36? That is a gift. I love inspirational quotes, too. Great post. :)

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  78. Wow great post! Loved it!

    By the way, I've 'Tagged' you on my blog, so stop by and pick it up whenever you can!

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  79. Nice post, thanks
    please visit my blog too.

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  80. Clarissa ~ Staying motivated can be the hardest part. I thought hearing some solid techniques on how to do it from someone like Diana would help us all.

    Ciara ~ Gotta love those military retirements! Happy you enjoyed the post.

    Jess ~ Thanks for stopping by. Tagged? I'll swing by for the details. Nice to know you are thinking of me.

    S.N. ~ Glad you found me and enjoyed the post!

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  81. Clarissa Draper said: Wonderful post. I love hearing how others stay motivated. I like that she reads inspirational quotes and that she sets clear goals. I try to do those things as well.

    ~Hi Clarissa, thank you so much for stopping by and saying hi. I love motivational quotes as they’re like reminders of our choices for our life focus. Take care, enjoy your weekend, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte,

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  82. Ciara said: Wow, retired at 36? That is a gift.

    ~It is. I feel blessed to have retired at such an early age. It allowed me to focus on being ultra-involved with my children as they grew up. I’m so proud of each of them. :)

    I love inspirational quotes, too. Great post. :)

    ~Thank you so much for stopping by and saying hi. If anything helps, that’s what it’s all about. Take care, enjoy your weekend, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte,

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  83. Jess said: Wow great post! Loved it!

    ~Hi Jess, thank you so much for your kind words. If anything helps, that’s what it’s all about. :)

    By the way, I've 'Tagged' you on my blog, so stop by and pick it up whenever you can!

    ~Thank you so much, Jess. I signed up at your site. Have a super weekend, and I wish you the very best!
    Slaìnte,

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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  84. S.N SHUKLA said: Nice post, thanks

    ~Hi and thank you so much for stopping by and your kind comment. What is your blog url? Take care, enjoy your weekend, and I wish you the best!
    Slaìnte,

    Diana Cosby, AGC(AW), USN Ret.
    www.dianacosby.com

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