For this month’s Insecure Writer’s Support Group post, led by the wonderful Alex J. Cavanaugh, I asked my friend Diana Cosby to be a guest.
Not only is she a gifted storyteller that turned this die-hard paranormal/urban fantasy reader into a lover of historical romance, but she is also a philanthropist with a big heart and generous spirit. I’m eagerly anticipating her Highland Vampire anthology.
Thanks for coming on and sharing your wisdom, Diana!
"Insecurities To Success - a doubters guide to believing in self!"
Dreams are visions of what we can become. But, dreams are also an invitation to doubt, to wonder if you’re good enough, or if you have what it takes. When I retired from the Navy, I decided to pursue my dream of becoming a published author. After 100 rejections, I quit counting as I figured I knew how to achieve a rejection. Then, after 9 ½ years, I finally sold. The journey taught me many things, which I’d like to share with you.
-Take yourself seriously: If YOU don’t, no one else will.
-Associate with people who inspire you, and encourage you to achieve your dreams. Encourage and inspire others as you grow in your own writing.
-Set a clear goal: Once you know exactly what you want, break down steps to achieve it. If you’re unsure how to start, read biographies of people who have achieved a dream similar to yours. What steps did they take? Are there comparable avenues you can pursue?
-Success is a compilation of small steps toward one focused goal.
-Affiliate yourself with professional organizations: Join accredited groups to educate yourself about the industry you’ve chosen. In addition to net-working, you will have opportunities to learn from on-line or local sources.
-Self affirmation: Each morning reaffirm that you are good enough and clarify your goal of the day. Then, move forward with positive, focused steps.
-Inspirational quotes: I’m a huge fan of inspirational quotes, they ground and remind me that each of us struggle as we pursue our dreams. Each day, I find a quote that touches me and post it on my Facebook page in hopes others find inspiration in the message as well.
-Permission to fail: Success is not a moment, but a journey. As we grow within our craft, there will be times when we fail at a certain steps. Focus not on the failure, but on the lessons learned. What worked, what didn’t? Move forward and make wiser decisions with the knowledge learned.
-The way we act, and talk about our goals reflects our commitment to them: What are you telling yourself? “I WILL do this!” Or, are you assuring yourself that one day you’ll really try?
-Give the gift of example: When you make the choice to follow your dream, you are doing more than commitment to self, but teaching your children an important life lesson — dare to dream, and follow through. So, be bold. Believe in yourself.
I hope you’ve found inspiration from my comments. Remember, there is no right path, but the steps right for you. Believe in yourself, YOU have what it takes!
*How do you encourage others to go after their dreams?
Diana's bio: Most people think of retirement as a time to relax. For me, retiring at 36 from my job as a Navy Chief Meteorologist/ Oceanographer allowed me to pursue my passion – writing romance novels. With 33 moves behind me and having traveled through many countries, I was anxious to create characters who reflected the amazing cultures and people I’ve met over the years.
I am currently working on the next Scottish medieval romantic suspense book in the award-winning MacGruder brothers series as well as a story for a Scottish medieval Vampire anthology featuring Hannah Howell to be released in 2012. I look forward to the years of writing ahead and meeting the amazing people who will share my journey.
To learn more about Diana or to purchase her latest release HIS DESTINY, click HERE.
Diana will stop by to answer any questions and to meet commenters!